Public speaking is something that I never would have described to be one of my interests or strengths, but the more I do it the more comfortable I feel and actually find myself enjoying it! Last Tuesday night was such an honour to be a part of the Panel at Van City Business Babes Mompreneur Mingle. I was left feeling uplifted and inspired by the ladies on the panel and those that I was able to chat with afterwards.
Located at Sky Helicopters’ Sky Hanger close to 200 ladies came together from Vancouver – Chilliwack (maybe even farther) to learn, support and connect with one another. At the start of the event we were given plenty of time to mingle and shop the local vendors that had tables set up displaying their items. Each vendor had such a gorgeous display and was so unique to the next.
Samantha Dempster, of The Family Jewels, started the night off by bringing up three models styled in Bella and Wren attire and spoke about styling as a mother and business owner. Ways to utilize one piece multiple ways to expand your wardrobe and make more outfits out of one solid piece.
After coming home from the night and reflecting on the evening I knew that I wanted to share some answers that stood out to me from the panelists; Lorene (Glitter & Spice), Trisha (Darling + Bandit) and Lynnelle (Tiptoe Meadow). As the panel host I was able to add some tidbits of my own throughout the talk and have disbursed those thoughts below as well as I work through their highlights.
1. What inspired you to start doing what you are doing?
Across the board these ladies were all inspired in some way from their kids and families. Whether it was from starting their business or since starting inspiration comes their way through their children.
Lorene, Glitter and Spice, shared that as her business grows and her daughter spends time with her creating she often is inspired by the way that she strings necklace combinations together, creating new designs from her daughters play.
2. What has been the biggest blessing from starting your business?
Some of the blessings mentioned included being able to make your own schedule and spend more time with the kids at home. I also loved that the ladies shared that they loved connecting and meeting with fellow entrepreneurs, each of these ladies are so supportive and shared about the benefits of having those connections.
3. How do you keep going on days where you don’t feel like working?
Unfortunately this question I feel like I am drawing a blank on the answers that were given, maybe it’s the baby brain kicking in or maybe it could be that there wasn’t one straight answer. Each day is a different day and each struggle is a new challenge, resorting back to why you started and connecting with your family are always great at getting back on track and refocused.
4. How do you Balance your family, kids and your work?
I don’t remember correctly who said it, but someone mentioned that it is important to remember that balance looks different for everyone. When determining the balance in your work, family and kids decide what that looks like for you personally and don’t compare with what any other perceived balance might look like. Think of balance as a feeling and if you are feeling like each area in your life is getting the appropriate love and attention.
5. How has social media been a part of your business?
Lynnelle, Tiptoe Meadow, mentioned that when she started her business Facebook was the do all end all, it was the most successful way to market yourself. When Instagram started to grow that became a huge tool for her to reach a new audience, however noticing the changes coming to Instagram she mentioned that she will be putting more focus back into Facebook to strengthen both platforms.
Trisha, Darling + Bandit, has recently launched her business and of course been a fan of Instagram and the exposure that that has given her. She mentioned her new found love for snapchat and the ability to see the raw and real snippits of peoples everyday lives that aren’t always shown in an Instagram feed.
6. What is your least favourite thing?
We touched on that not all areas of business are always going to be enjoyable and that there are always going to be areas that need a little extra attention and motivation. It is normal so don’t get yourself down if you are finding some areas less enjoyable then others.
7. How do you ensure your husband is getting the attention he needs?
This was a question from the crowd that ended up being one of my favorites from the night, quite possibly because I know it is something that I have to figure out more and also because each of the ladies had a unique answer that was so perfect for how they work.
Lynnelle, Tiptoe Meadow, stated that in their home it is all about the constants. Her and her husband have made the decision to always go to bed together, so that no matter what they are doing, they can end the night together, reflect before bed and keep that constant in their home for connection.
Trisha, Darling + Bandit, knows that her husband feels loved and appreciated when she plans special nights out for them. With the help of her family to watch her children she is able to consciously make an effort to spend the valuable time of a night out with her husband to connect and date each other.
Lorene, Glitter and Spice, said that it might not work for everyone but what works great for them is having her husband join the process, he will often spend nights with Lorene helping her with the business, stringing necklaces and completing other tasks for Glitter and Spice. With his extra helps he can finish up her duties for the evening a bit quicker and they can have more time together afterwards before bed.
I had this feeling on my heart to share at the end of the talk that it is important as we go through this walk of motherhood and/or being an entrepreneur it is important not to compare yourself to others. Including the way that something is done, to the success that you see or the perceived “perfectness” through social media. Focus on your goals, build real relationships and learn from others in a genuine and kind way – this type of collaboration and connection is way more beneficial.
Thank you to Chelsey Luren for Photographing the event and capturing these gorgeous images.
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